it’s not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to is that hurts us. Of course things can hurt us physically or economically and can cause sorrow. But our character, our basic identity, does not have to be hurt at all. In fact, our most difficult experiences become the crucibles that forge our character and develop the internal powers, the freedom to handle difficult circumstances in the future and to inspire others to do so as well. – Stephen R. Covey
I am on vacation, but am sort of working because well that’s just that nature of me! I can’t turn off totally. And I don’t want to– I don’t believe in separation of work and personal life– if you love what you do, you’re not working anyway! And I teach people to integrate their work into the nooks and crannies of their day all the time- so why would vacation be any different.
Yesterday, however I let something get to me….in a way that usually things don’t get to me anymore. And you know what happens when you let something get under your skin– even if you’re the root cause of that difficult situation…it gets under your skin and festers. It plays havoc with your mind– you can’t sleep, you are crabby with those around you that you’ve no right to take it out on, and you can’t be in the moment anymore because every moment is taken over by your thoughts around the situation that is not resolved. Things become a mountain when they’re just a molehill. It’s what I tell my 6yo all the time– the more you focus energy on your booboo– the bigger it will get and the more it will hurt. Easy to preach– harder to practice. Anyway, I got the opportunity to right the wrong that caused the issue- and my mind reset…but then when I opened the page to this book that I’m reading to today’s date and the quote above is the quote I got to read. It couldn’t have been more appropriate for me today. Yes, I always am amazed at the infinite wisdom and ability of the Universe to tell you exactly what you need to hear, when you need to hear it.
Thank you Universe (and Stephen Covey!)
6 thoughts on “September 24: Daily reflections of Highly Effective People”
You’re right! Pain is inevitable suffering is optional. My own recent experiences have shown how great ideas can be born out of pain! Thank you for sharing!
Great message that I try to live by! Pain is going to be inevitable in our life but suffering is optional. Look at the most successful and they got that way because they went through the most and chose how they were going to response proactively to what was going on around them. Thanks for the post!!
Thank you Diane! It means the world to me that my words have the ability to touch even one or two people. I’m here for you anytime and you know this!
Good morning Sunshine,
Oh how I wonder how you knew I needed your post today! I thought I would take just a second, because that’s all I have lately, just to THANK YOU for ALL YOUR EFFORT … I know you don’t have to Blog but I NEED YOU to know how much of a POSITIVE IMPACT YOU HAVE ON ME!!!!!
I am so GRATEFUL for YOU in MY LIFE!!!!! ♥U!!!
Dave, that fleeting moment — when it is so hard to stop, take stock of they situation and then respond . We all tend to have knee jerk reactions. If you can actually be thoughtful about your response– that’s when real growth happens!
Thank you as always for your comments. It’s nice to be appreciated! 🙂
The words of Stephen Covey always touch me in a special way. I remember his definition of the word responsibility that speaks directly to the quote you shared with us today.
Responsibility is made up of two words, response and ability. So responsibility is really our ability to respond. When you put it that way, everyone can and should be responsible 😉
As Dr. Covey also shares, there is a moment between stimulus and response where we have the ability to make a choice. It is in that moment and that choice that all personal growth occurs.
Thank you for bringing these special thoughts to the forefront of my mind today. Another case of seeing the Universe provide exactly what I need at exactly the right time 🙂 Have an inspired day!